Have you ever wondered why men shy away from certain women? What are the characteristics that make them unapproachable? Here are fifteen insights from men of an online community who shed light on the common habits that lead men to give up their pursuit of a woman.
Closed Body Language
“Crossing your arms, avoiding eye contact, or constantly looking away can make you seem disinterested or unapproachable,” says a member of the online community, who adds that closed body language is a huge drawback, no matter how attractive they are.
Texting Instead of Flirting
These days, most people don’t know how to fill the awkward gap of nothingness in social gatherings. Hence, it’s understandable why everyone is on their phones. A girl shares how she is conventionally attractive but doesn’t get approached because either she or others are on the phone.
Music On, Romance Off
Headphones are the universal symbol of “Don’t talk to me.” It’s understandable why most men feel they can’t approach a woman wearing headphones. A female user also feels frustrated at being interrupted when listening to music in public. Steer clear of anyone whose headphones are plugged in.
Excessive Negativity
If a woman frequently complains or expresses negative attitudes, it can be a turn-off for potential conversation or connection.
The Group Impression
As if making a move wasn’t scary enough, imagine doing it in a larger group. One person mentions how you are under pressure to impress both the lady in question as well as her friends. A single negative comment from her friends can ruin any chances.
The Mean Girls
In addition to groups, many men fear approaching a woman when she is in the company of mean girls. One member highlights “snide audible commentary while in their girl group” as a significant factor that will make them turn around.
Too Hot To Handle
If a woman is too conventionally attractive, men of the forum confess to being intimidated. They avoid approaching her, convinced that “she must be taken already.” However, others respond to this comment by mentioning how an attractive woman would appreciate getting respectfully approached because it’s a good boost for her self-esteem. So shoot your shot, my friends.
The Dealbreaker
Even if men are attracted to a woman or are interested in her, they say they won’t approach her if she appears rude or engages in inappropriate public behavior. Context or not, such actions can make some men steer clear.
Overly Defensive Attitude
Similarly, responding defensively or confrontationally to small talk or questions can discourage men from continuing conversations or approaching that person in the future.
Creep Avoidance 101
No one wants to be made feel like a creep. Several men avoid approaching women for fear of being labeled a “creep” when their intentions are otherwise. One member says, “It’s not worth it. Sorry, ladies, but the burden is on you to do the approaching from now on because men have too much to lose and too little to gain.”
Busybody
If you’re a woman who paces around everywhere she goes, regardless of being in a hurry, you may be unapproachable, says some men. They are less likely to reach out to a woman who looks like she’s in a hurry or is moving too fast since it gives the impression that she has better things to do.
The Wounds of Humiliation
It’s time for some introspection. Several men say they don’t approach women because they can’t handle being turned down. While a polite no is okay, they say the humiliation and insults push the limit. One user mentions that the one abuse that always gets him is when women keep rejecting him for 20 minutes, listing reasons why he’s undesirable in front of everyone.
Fear of Being Ignored
In addition to rejection, several men also fear being ignored. However, one optimist says it’s better to take your shot instead of wondering, “What if?” for the rest of your life. You know you dodged a bullet if she was mean, but if you do get a date, good for you! Being told “no” is part of life; you can’t grow unless you try.
Ignoring Social Cues
According to one user, disregarding social norms, like not respecting personal space or interrupting conversations, can make a woman seem inconsiderate and unapproachable.
Intense Busyness
“Always appearing rushed or too busy may deter men from approaching you,” says one user. “They may feel it’s not the right time for a conversation.”
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