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Hello August! It feels as though this year has sped by at an alarming rate, with so much going on on all fronts. Between travel, work and family and friend commitments such as weddings, engagements, babies and sadly funerals I don’t know where half the time went! It was also the year that I turned 30 and I had the best time celebrating in Abu Dhabi. You can read more about that here. As we are in August and summer will start to sizzle away, that means we all need to get back to either work or school. New jobs, a new year at university or school, new friends and faces. Now that I am 30 I see all of this differently to how I did ten years ago and as I speak to people who are sometimes younger than me, I thought I would write a post on the five things I wish I knew ten years ago, in the hopes that it might help those who are still in their early twenties with what they are going through at the moment.
Focus on Passions, not Money
I think this is one of the main things I wish I knew when I was younger, studying and going through university. When it came to choosing a career, my whole reason for studying and working hard was to get me a job that could offer me the life that I wanted – and that meant designer clothes, lots of travel and fancy hotels. All of these things are lovely, but they mean nothing at all if you have to spend your days doing something that you don’t want to do (click here). The concept of being an entrepreneur or being anything other than the staple accountant, lawyer, doctor was just so foreign to me. Being an artist, or a kinesiologist or writer was just not an option. Those were hobbies – not a career. How wrong was I! The concept of how much money you could stand to make should never be the reason you pick a career. What do you like doing? What can you see yourself doing day in day out for the rest of your life? What excites you? It should be these factors that you think about.
Luck is Working Hard
This point actually follows on from the first. If you love something, work really hard at it and practise continuously, then the money will come. Luck has nothing to do with it – it’s all down to the effort and hard work you put in. They say that it takes a minimum of 480 hours (the equivalent of two solid months) to learn a new language. Let’s say that you do 10 hours a day for 48 days solely focused on learning French. Statistics say that you will be fluent in French in about two months. You are effectively going to be doing that with the career you choose, ten hours a day, everyday, for the next however many odd years. Think about how good you are going to grow to be! Now imagine that you are doing that with something you love – it doesn’t take a genius to see that you will be successful in your chosen field if you just keep at it, work hard and practise. The luck will happen on the back of your efforts.
Travel the World
There’s a saying that travel is the only thing you can buy that makes you richer and I think this is so true. Whilst I’m lucky to say that I have travelled a lot at this point, I really wish I had caught the travel bug earlier. Travel is not just about visiting a new place and seeing the landmarks. It’s about learning about the people, the traditions, the culture, the cuisines and religions. It broadens your mind and makes you more understanding and accepting of how people are. The open-mindedness that you get from travelling just can’t be learnt from staying in the same place. I recently wrote a post talking about how I get to travel so much, along with some tips on how you can travel more too. You can check that out by clicking here.
Stop Caring About What Others Think
I can’t stress this enough. When you are younger it’s all about fitting in, being part of the right groups, wearing the right things, posting the right things on social media and the list goes on. When you are older, you will realise how much these things DO NOT MATTER. Your friends when you’re 16 will not necessarily be the same people you hang out with when you are 29. Your thoughts and how you see things will change; your ambitions change. You will design your own life and gravitate towards people who are more in line with your way of thinking. It took me a long time to get over this when starting the blog. I was so worried about what people think, how it wouldn’t tie into my financial background, how people would judge. Now I’m so glad I did it and honestly could not be happier that I did. Those who don’t like it don’t have to follow – and that’s the attitude you need to take. If people don’t like what you’re doing, so what! For all you know, those same people who never engage with you may be those same people who are jealous of your every move (and actually want you to feel like you aren’t going to make it!!). Just be confident in who you are, what you are doing and the rest will all fall into place.
Don’t Limit Yourself
Sometimes, I think we do not always know what we are capable of. We remain locked in our immediate circle and surroundings and forget that their is so much else going on in the world, and that you can be a part of it. In my own experience, when I was younger I never would have thought that moving overseas was possible, neither to work or study, just because it was expected of me to hang around in Malta, go to university there and to continue on working on the island. I always knew that I had big dreams and wanted to have a life more than that, but just didn’t know how. Moving to London to do my masters was one of the best things I ever did and I wish I knew that I could have moved away sooner. When planning out your life and career path, don’t forget that you always have options. You don’t have to study or work in the place you grew up, you don’t have to live the life that’s planned for you by others and you definitely don’t have to feel limited in any way. The world is your oyster and you can do and be anything you want to be.
‘So many people live their lives at the mercy of fear. They play it safe and they take no risks; and while they may end up with less bumps and bruises, their life is often starved of magic. And so it must be said that the person who doesn’t risk anything, risks everything’
There you have it – the five things I wish I knew ten years ago. I hope the post above helped you in some way if you are a ten year younger version of me. I hope that it made you feel as though you have options and that you can do whatever you want to do and be whoever you want to be. If you are my age, what tips do you have for your younger self? List them in the comments below!
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