Location: Alcatraz Island, San Francisco
We all have moments were we feel stuck in life. Stuck in a job, stuck in an unhappy situation, feeling dissatisfied with ourselves. As I sit here writing this on a Sunday night, I’m thinking about how many people I have spoken to recently that hate Sunday evenings because it means the weekend is over, and that it’s another week of working in a job they dislike, in a city they don’t necessarily want to be in or with an overload of things that they need to get done on Monday. Social media doesn’t help. We all know it’s a side reel of everybody’s best moments in life. Sometimes when looking through profiles of people or celebrities we look up to, it’s easy to feel trapped and dissatisfied in our own lives. I like to start the week on a positive note and despite the title, I actually think that some positive thoughts can come out of reading today’s blog post. Here are some of the tips that I use to get me out of that exact mood of feeling trapped.
1. Feeling Grateful
The easiest thing to do when you are feeling trapped and dissatisfied with life is just to take a step back and take stock of what you have. It’s easy to get caught up in the negative and focus on what is going wrong in life, but it helps to take a moment and just think about what is going right. Make a list, even if it is only a handful of things. Once you have that, think about those things that are going right and feel grateful for them. As bad as things are, I promise you that there is someone having a harder time than you and wishing they had your life. So take a step back, think about what you have and feel gratitude for it. If nothing else, it make make you realise that the problem you have may not be a big problem in the grand scheme of things.
2. Get Healthy and Active
Being healthy is one of the best things you can do to take control of your life and put yourself in the right frame of mind. Being healthy, fit and strong makes a whole world of difference to your everyday being. It can be as simple as a long walk in the park, which can do wonders to clear your mind. In fact, walking three times a week in addition to a steady workout routine will have a huge impact on the way you feel about yourself. You don’t even need a gym membership. Switch on your computer, laptop or phone and follow some at home body weight workouts, even if it’s only ten minutes a day. Of course, being healthy, fit and strong is not just about exercise. After all, you are what you eat. Review your diet, try slowly cutting out some of those nastier items such as sugar, soft drinks or processed foods. Focus on stocking up on veggies and fruits and filling yourself with ingredients that make your body happy. When your body is fit and healthy, your mind is healthy. There may be many things that are outside your control in life, but how you use your body and what you put in your mouth is all on you.
3. Do Something You Love
Almost everybody has moments where they don’t like their job or what they do for a living. It’s normal. It’s also not realistic to quit your job to do something you love without a plan, as love won’t pay the rent. I actually read a book called Get Your Sh*t Together, that gives some really useful advice on how to come up with that plan. That being said, everyone can have a hobby or activity that they turn to to make themselves feel better. It took me sometime to figure out what my thing was, but after a few years of experimenting with different activities outside of work, I decided to start a blog on the subjects that interest me most and I’m now hooked. That doesn’t mean I quit my day job, but having my blog on the side means I have something to look forward to and something to focus my energy on. Since then I feel so much less trapped and should the blog take off one day, then that is just an added bonus.
4. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Sometimes I think that we would be happy with our lives and what we have, if it weren’t for seeing other people and their lives on social media. It’s so important never to be jealous or to compare yourself to others. The person who is always smiling in their Instagram pictures may have a relative struggling with an illness that they just don’t talk about. The person who you think has a wardrobe filled with designer items might have thousands of pounds worth of credit card debt. Remember that social media really only showcases the best bits of peoples’ lives and is never a reason to feel that your own life is inadequate or that someone has it better than you. Focus on you and your own life, and on making that the best life you can live.
I hope the above gave those struggling with their Monday morning some ideas on how you can turn things around by making small changes in your lives for the better. How do you deal with feeling trapped in a situation? What are your tips for dealing with difficult situations?