He was a young man fairly close with his younger sister, Jen. They are no longer on speaking terms.
The Marriage Was Ending
It all happened ten years ago when he was in a dysfunctional marriage.
He Was Unfaithful
Towards the end of his marriage, he began an affair with another woman.
He Knew He Was Wrong
He planned on divorcing his wife but admits he was wrong to have started a relationship with someone else before the divorce was finalized.
Jen Learns About the Affair
His sister Jen found out about the affair and was furious. She couldn’t believe what he had done and said his actions were wrong. He didn’t disagree.
She Refused to Keep His Secret
However, she then told him she would tell his wife.
She Had Morals
He pleaded with her not to divulge his secret; however, Jen felt she had a moral obligation.
Family Obligation?
Did she not have an obligation of loyalty to her own brother, he thought? After all, Jen had no relationship with his wife.
She Owed Him!
In his opinion, Jen owed him. He had done all kinds of things for her in the past. He lent her money she never paid back; he covered for her when she used to sneak out of the house and party all night, and kept her bad vices hidden from their parents. He never ratted her out.
The Cat’s Out of the Bag!
Jen did not care. She believed that as a good person, she could not withhold this information from his wife no matter what he had done for her in the past.
He Cannot Forgive Her
Ten years have now passed, and his marriage has ended, however, he has still not forgiven his sister.
Is He Wrong?
He turned to an online forum to tell his story and ask if he was wrong for not making amends with his sister. Here’s what people had to say.
The Story Invokes Rage
“The idea that you think your sister owed you to keep your evil secret because you… didn’t tell on her when you were teenagers?” asked one user angrily. “What reality do you live in?!”
Cheaters Deserve to be Exposed!
“Cheaters deserve to be exposed!” argues another user. “You showed you are not someone who values loyalty the minute you started an affair and didn’t break things off.”
Morals Over Loyalty
“When you’re in the wrong, other people do not have an obligation to be “loyal” to you over doing what’s right,” says another user who disagrees with him not making peace with his sister.
Family is Everything!
Not all users agree, and some believe he was right for cutting ties with his sister. “Cut off your sister for the simple fact that she was family and wasn’t anything to your ex,” says one user. They continue, “Maybe it’s just because in my culture, family is everything, but I’d never tell my sister’s partner her business. Whether or not she cheated, I’d stick to my family.”
She Made Her Bed
This was backed by other commenters, who added, “You have every right not to want a relationship with your sister. She made her bed; she needs to lie in it. You told her what would happen if she told and she did it anyways!”
A Difference in Opinion
Users were clearly divided in the comments, however, the majority leaned towards the cheating husband being in the wrong.
“She was obligated to tell your wife. And you know it,” argues one user.
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